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Question Mark September 2, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Question MarkDear Mark,
I think one of my best friends may be in love with me and I don't know what to do about it. He's not one of my long term friends. We've only known each other for about 5 years. We met when we were both in relationships. Both of us broke it off with our boyfriends about the same time and started palling around with each other. We were both kind of burnt by our ex's and made a vow to jump back into the dating/bar scene. We went out all the time and always watched each other's back. We really had a great time being single. He's very handsome and I've been told I'm not too bad to look at either. We met a lot of men and had a lot of sex. It was fun. 
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Question Mark August 19, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,
I'm a 43 year old gay man. I have had a few significant relationships in my life. However none of them have lasted more than 6 years. All my life I dreamed of meeting someone to fall in love with and for us to be able to have kids and a family. Of course, being gay, we'd have to adopt or find a surrogate. My family has always been accepting of me and have supported my life and my decision to have kids. I always thought I could have it all. 
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Question Mark July 8, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear, Mark,

How are you today? I wrote you a while back and told you that the guy I had fallen in love with had broken up with me. After what happened to me, I tried to do what you suggested that I should do. I tried to hold my head high and be respectful to him as hard as I could, though it wasn't easy. I was even able to work with him.
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Question Mark June 24, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Hi Mark,
I’ve been seeing this guy for about six months now. We met online and it was really a great connection at first. He was everything I was looking for. He was sexy as hell and the sex was great. He was also smart, funny, sincere and he had a good job and owned his own house. A dream come true, right?
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Question Mark May 13, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,

Long distance relationships are hard. I’ve been seeing this woman I’ll call Jill for the past six months. We met in Fort Lauderdale over the Winter Party festivities. She was down from FSU visiting her family who live in Jupiter. I’ve been living at home again temporarily in Boca with my family.
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Question Mark April 1, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,
I saw your article and wanted to write in. I'm 50 years old. I have lived a life of celibacy because I was molested by my gym teacher when I was 13 years old. I had an ongoing relationship with him for 3 years. After that he passed me off to his buddy, my social studies teacher. Another 2 year relationship ensued. I don't even know if you could call it a relationship. It basically consisted of me sucking him off after school. We never saw each other outside of school.
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Question Mark August 12, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,


Can you help me with something? I’m a 32 year old gay man. I don’t want to sound arrogant, but by all accounts I think I’m very good looking. People have told me I look like I should be on a soap opera. I work out and have a great body. I have been single now for two years. My last boyfriend cheated on me and it ended things. I have a good circle of friends and have been going out a lot. I tend to get lots of attention - many guys, both young and old, cruising ... 
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Question Mark July 1, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,

My partner and I have been married for 20 years. He is handsome and intelligent and I love him very much. The problem is that I don’t believe in my heart that he loves me. I think that he cares for me and loves me but is not “in love” with me. I feel like he tolerates me. I know I’m not the easiest man to live with.
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Question Mark May 27, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,
I hope you still remember me. Well, I guess I haven't written to you for a long time. I've been quite busy with my work and everything. I write to you this time to ask you for your advice one more time. You see, I did what you asked me to do to him. I asked him what exactly he felt for me and, to my disappointment, he said he'd already been in a relationship with another man.
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Question Mark April 29, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,

I’m at a cross road in my life and not sure where to turn. I saw your column online and thought you might be a safe person to ask. I’ve been with my partner for 22 years. We moved down from New York together a number of years ago to start the next chapter of our lives. We both loved Florida and thought it was a good choice. My partner is really my best friend. We do everything together and even own a business together. It’s all been good.

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Question Mark February 11, 2010 Print E-mail
Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW   

Dear Mark,

I recently read your column in Hotspots Magazine giving someone advice. After reading the column, I decided to write you this email with hopes you can help me. I have lived in the Fort Lauderdale area for the last 11 1/2 years, having moved here from up north. I am 35 years old and deeply depressed. I have battled depression since I can remember. My life as a child and well into my adulthood has been nothing but pain.

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