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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
I just moved here and can't believe how juvenile guys are about HIV. I'm quite up-front about my status and I choose to let it come out in the natural course of getting to know a guy. Granted, after living through the crisis since the beginning (nearly 19 years now) I have seen a lot, and I find myself getting all pissed off at an increasingly visible trend of sexual discrimination.
What is up with so many guys advertising their HIV-negative status in discriminatory terms like "HIV Neg- UB2," or "D&D Free for Same," and other senseless statements in the same vein? What would they do DIFFERENTLY if they DIDN'T know my status right up front? And since when does the word "CLEAN" refer to absence of HIV?
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Written by Woody Miller
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Hey Woody,
I thought you might be able to help us. After a month's breakup last year due to infidelity on my part over a need to get some butt, my lover and I decided to give it another go. I told him I'd agree to a monogamous relationship if he'd learn to, er, take it like a man. I expressed my need to be the top occasionally and that I was not willing to live out the rest of my life without penetrating someone every now and again. I feel our acts of love should be a free exchange of roles (top some; bottom some). He said he'd be willing to work with me on learning the pleasures of receiving. I was elated because I really love this guy
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
How many calories do you burn having sex? I'm thinking if it's high enough, wouldn't promiscuity be a better way of getting fit than going to the gym? Besides, I'd love to be able to say, "I'm not a whore; I'm an athlete." In all seriousness, if I can freak the fat off, why would I try to try to jog it off?
- Aspiring Slut
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
I want to surprise my boyfriend for our one-year anniversary with a sex-related but fairly tame gift. He's as vanilla as they come so I can't be doing anything raunchy. Any suggestions?
-Gift guesser
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
I went home with a guy I wasn't all that attracted to. Things changed when we got to his bedroom. And this was before the pants came off! The room was just the sexiest thing I'd ever seen. Everything about it oozed sensuality.
Our encounter was a one-nighter so I can't remember much of the room, plus I was wearing, uhm, beer goggles that night. My question: How do I sex up my bedroom without sinking into James Bond clichés?
- Bedroom eyes
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
I'm 28, reasonably good-looking, I work out, I'm well-read, drive a good car, have a good job, blah, blah, blah. So why can't I bag any guys? I'm not interested in one-night stands. I want dates, not tricks. Whenever I meet someone I try to be as impressive as I can. I try to do everything right: I say cool things, I try to figure out what the guy wants to hear. If I say something he doesn't like I backpedal and change what I said to better suit his tastes. Clearly I'm not trying hard enough because Saturday nights might as well be Monday nights for all the dates I'm getting. What am I doing wrong? How can I be impressive enough to get the guys I want?
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Written by Woody Miller
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Hey Woody,
My friends have a raging debate going on about relationships. Half think "Opposites Attract," while the other half say, "Opposites Attack." I'm curious, what does the Woodster think?
-No position on opposition
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
I'm hoping you can help me and other people in the same situation. I'm HIV+ and in desperate need of meds. I make practically nothing income-wise yet I've been turned down for assistance from every AIDS organization, public health clinic and governmental group (like Social Security) you can think of. Why? Because I'm not full blown yet. When I started meds a year ago I was 30 t-cells away from being full blown and got my meds from a research group that just dropped me a month ago. I've been struggling ever since then for help. The researchers can't get me any more meds and won't offer me assistance. I'm at my wit's end, what can I do?
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
What do you think are the most important things to know about giving good head?
- Wondering
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Written by Woody Miller
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 Hey Woody,
Like your last writer ("Feeling Helpless"), I too, am HIV, at a lower-income level and have had many doors shut in my face when trying to get help with medication payments and co pays. I have applied to, and participated in, many pharmaceutical and/or hospital-based research studies in order to obtain the life-saving medications that I needed. I was faithful to the dosing requirements and never missed an appointment with the doctor. But, when the study was complete, so was my usefulness to the pharmaceutical company. Once they're done with the study they're done with you. It's "no more meds and don't let the door hit you on the way out."
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