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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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 Dear Mark,
How do you know for sure a guy likes you? I've been flirting with this hot guy at starbucks for weeks. We see each other every Saturday morning and smile at each other. The other day we exchanged a few words and had lingering eye contact. I really am attracted to him and would like to ask him out but don't want to get rejected. I guess I'm not sure of my next step. Hooking up with guys is easy but asking one out on a date is kind of riskier I guess. He's always with a group of friends but doesn't look like he has a boyfriend. How do you think I should proceed. -Questioning in Wilton Manors
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
My partner and I just moved down to Florida from Virginia about 8 months ago. I retired last year and we decided to make a new start. My partner Chris and I have been together for 9 years. He is considerably younger than me. I'm 56 and he's 31. We decided to buy in a gay neighborhood as I really wanted to make some new friends. But I'm finding developing a new social group at my age isn't as easy as I thought it would be.
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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 Dear Mark,
I've been beginning to have some sort of social anxiety recently. I've always been a bit shy at parties and never have been a big talker. But recently it's gotten worse. On my way to work last week I got some sort of an attack. My heart began to race and I got short of breath. I felt like I was going to pass out. I had to pull the car over to the side of the road. I called my boyfriend and he talked me through it. I felt better after about 15 minutes and was able to restart my car and drive to work. But the whole experience shook me up. I couldn't figure out what it was or...
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
I just got off the phone with my best friend who suggested I contact you for advice. I'm having issues with a guy who I think is stalking me. He and I briefly dated, approx. 1 month, about 7 years ago. I was in my 30s and had been out for almost 2 decades. He was 38 and I was his first male relationship. He was a nice guy but we were just in two different places in our lives. I thought I ended things amicably but I guess I was wrong.
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
How do I begin? I guess it's just easiest to say it right off. I'm in love with my best friend's boyfriend. I know it can never work. They've been together for 3 years. They've had some problems but have always worked on them. My best friend had been single for many years and we were always hanging out. We've known each other since high school and even moved to South Florida together. He was so happy when he met this guy (I'll call him Frank) and I was happy for him. The three of us would do things together and we had a good time. I always found Frank very hot but of course never acted on it. One night my friend wasn't feeling well and ...
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark
I'm 44-years-old and a newly single guy in the gay community here in Fort Lauderdale. Last year I (finally) got out of a long-term relationship. We were together 17 years and that was seven years too long. He was a great guy, but we had grown apart. It was a mutual decision and we still remain friends as well as own several properties together. Everything is okay with him. My problem is on the dating front. My partner and I had been monogamous for almost the entirety of our relationship and both of us are HIV negative. There had been very little outside sex with other guys and most of it was anonymous. This meant any interaction I had with them was under the "don't ask, don't tell" heading. HIV was never discussed and I always had safe sex.
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
My partner and I have been together for 8 years. We have a great loving relationship. We are the only gay couple I know who do not have an open relationship.
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
About 3 months ago I met a guy on Scruff. We hooked up and it was amazing. Great sex and we ended up talking for hours after. Since then we've been meeting up a lot. At first it was just sex, but as it progressed, I found myself more and more into him. He said he felt the same. About a month into it, he revealed that he had a long term boyfriend. They have been together for 8 years and he says they're great friends, but the spark has gone out of the relationship. He says they haven't had sex in almost a year. They opened their relationship a few years ago but operate on the 'don't ask don't tell' method.
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Hi Mark,
I've been seeing this guy for about six months now. We met online and it was really a great connection at first. He was everything I was looking for. He was sexy as hell and the sex was great. He was also smart, funny, sincere, and he had a good job and owned his own house. A dream come true, right? The only problem is that he had...
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
I'm writing you now because I've liked the advice you've given in the past. My girlfriend and I are breaking up after eight years together. I'm devastated. I found out she was having an emotional affair with a mutual friend of ours. I got suspicious when I noticed them spending more time than usual together. A few weeks ago I came home early from work and found them hanging out at our house. It was a little weird, but
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Written by Mark Rutherford LCSW
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Dear Mark,
My boyfriend and I have been together for 17 years. We met in Washington DC where we were both working corporate jobs. We spent 15 years in the city and were very happy together. We were both living "the life" and had many friends and were involved in many activities. About two years ago, my boyfriend's job was coming to an end and we both decided we wanted to make a change in our lives. We had always been interested in design and had taken jobs on the side in the city that had gone very well. We decided we would open our own company and move to Florida. We started out strong, but when the economy dried up so did our business. We have made some significant changes and are surviving the transition. However, in the process, our relationship has suffered some as well.
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