Hey Woody,
In a recent article you said that bareback topping is the #2 avenue for HIV infection, with bareback bottoming being #1. ? That statement concerns me. My physician is a prominent gay doctor and I am a personal friend with another physician. Both have told me the same thing: The chances of a bare backing (BB) top (strictly top, not one that bottoms occasionally) being infected with HIV from barebacking is equal to the risk of unprotected oral sex — taking cum in the mouth and swallowing.
Hey Woody,
In a recent article you said that bareback topping is the #2 avenue for HIV infection, with bareback bottoming being #1?
That statement concerns me. My physician is a prominent gay doctor and I am a personal friend with another physician. Both have told me the same thing: The chances of a bare backing (BB) top (strictly top, not one that bottoms occasionally) being infected with HIV from barebacking is equal to the risk of unprotected oral sex — taking cum in the mouth and swallowing. My physician goes so far to say that bottoming with a condom is no riskier than being a bareback top! With the exceptions that condoms can leak and break and assuming the top doesn’t have open sores on his penis. Now both doctors qualify this by saying they don’t want to give the impression that a BB top is ‘safe’, but they also concede that the gay community has a misconception that oral sex is ‘safe’, when the fact is there are documented cases of HIV transmission through oral sex, a fact the gay community still wants to deny. Thus they don’t encourage bb topping or unprotected oral sex where the guy getting sucked could be poz. But I think the gay community needs to be properly informed. While the risk of BB topping is extremely low, in reality it’s no riskier than unprotected oral sex?
– Straightening you out
Dear Straightening:
You need a new doctor and better friends. Any doctor who says that the risk of topping without a condom is equal to giving oral sex needs their license to say “beautician,” not “Doctor of Medicine.”
As long as there are no scrapes, cuts or abrasions in your mouth the risk of giving oral sex, even if a positive guy shoots in your mouth, is minimal. However, the risk of topping somebody who’s positive is much greater, even if you don’t have any sores or cuts on your penis. Here’s why: As you thrust the opening of the urethra (the “hole” in your penis) is stretched open, allowing fecal matter, blood particles and other delicious goodies to enter the urethra. As you pull out for the next thrusts, the urethral opening closes, pushing all those goodies deeper into the urethra, possibly scratching or tearing the urethra and creating a transmission route.
Contrast that to giving head. Somebody (hopefully hot) thrusts himself into your mouth. If there are no scratches or abrasions in either his penis or your mouth how can the virus enter your bloodstream? There is the possibility that it could be absorbed through the soft lining of the mouth’s membranes, but there’s also the possibility that I’ll go on a date without putting out. The odds are about the same: next to nothing.
Let me tell you a parable that speaks to your doctor’s prominent stupidity:
During the debt ceiling talks, house speaker John Boehner sent Obama a letter. Obama opened the letter and it contained a message that was obviously in code:
370HSSV-0773H
Obama couldn’t figure out the code so he sent it to the CIA. They couldn’t solve it so it went to the NSA and the FBI, then to MIT and NASA and finally to the Secret Service. Eventually, they asked an elderly WWII code breaker. The guy took one look at it and said, “Tell the President he is looking at the message upside down.”
That’s a long way of saying your doctor is looking at HIV research upside down. Hand it to him right side up and get a new doctor.
