Hollywood Inside and Out

“I’d rather be too tight than too loose.” – Tom Daley tells the guy putting a harness on him for HWI-3041_TomDaleybungee jumping.  When you think about it, that’s really good advice for a myriad of reasons – especially for a lad in his early 20s.  Once you get a bit older, your options dwindle significantly.

Sometimes this column writes itself.  When asked by the London “Guardian” if it’s harder for actors to be openly gay in Hollywood, Matt Damon said: “I’m sure.  When Ben and I first came on the scene there were rumors that we were gay because it was two guys who wrote a script together.  It’s just like any piece of gossip…and it put us in a weird position of having to answer, you know what I mean?  Which was then really deeply offensive.  I don’t want to, like [imply] it’s some sort of disease – then it’s like I’m throwing my friends under the bus.  But at the time, I remember thinking and saying, Rupert Everett was openly gay and this guy – more handsome than anybody, a classically trained actor – it’s tough to make the argument that he didn’t take a hit for being out.  I think you’re a better actor the less people know about you period.  And sexuality is a huge part of that.  Whether you’re straight or gay, people shouldn’t know anything about your sexuality because that’s one of the mysteries that you should be able to play.”

All I got out of that is Matt’s got a little man crush on Rupert Everett!  When he first came out, HWI-3041_MattDamonRupert was cocky, arrogant, abrasive, and often smelled.  Difficult to work with doesn’t even scratch the surface, so I suspect being gay was the least of his offenses – although I’m sure it didn’t help.  Back to Matt.  He clarified his point on “Ellen”: “I was just trying to say actors are more effective when they’re a mystery.  And somebody picked it up and said I said gay actors should get back in the closet.  Which is like, I mean, it’s stupid, but it is painful when things get said that you don’t believe.”  I hope we’ve cleared that up.

I then read a quote from someone who had a completely opposite opinion: “Michael Sam on NFL Career: ‘It Probably Would Have Been Better For Me If I Didn’t Come Out.'”  In that interview, Sam admits that he would have preferred to get drafted, come out to the team, give them time to get used to it, and then come out publicly.  But since the story was coming out anyway, he went with it.  “I have no regrets whatsoever,” he adds.

With all the brouhaha about the Pope’s brief meeting with Kim Davis, another story kinda got lost in the shuffle.  The only person who had a private audience with Pope Francis was a gay man – who brought his partner.  Yayo Grassi, an openly gay Argentine, is a former student of the pontiff.  Back in 1964, Francis taught literature and psychology at a high school in Santa Fe, Argentina.  Grassi was one of his students.  According to Yayo, “Three weeks before the trip, he called me on the phone and said he would love to give me a hug.”  Not only did he hug Grassi, but a photo shows the Pope hugging Grassi’s partner of 19 years, Iwan Bagus.  Yayo shared another anecdote.  In 2010, he read that the then-Cardinal Bergoglio had publicly condemned legalization of same-sex marriage.  Yayo wrote a long letter to the cardinal expressing disappointment.  He got an e-mail back, apologizing for the tone of the comments published (which he said were taken out of context), and adding, “I want you to know that in my work there is absolutely no place for homophobia”.  See?  Not everything is black and white.

HWI-3041_DannyPintauroAnother story making the rounds is the aftermath of Danny Pintauro’s revelation that he is HIV-positive.  While he apparently told co-stars Judith Light and Tony Danza eons ago, Alyssa Milano was left out of the loop.  During an appearance on “The Talk”, Alyssa said that she hasn’t been in touch with Pintauro for years.  “When the show ended, it was a different time – we didn’t have cell phones or Facebook or anything, so I would have been calling his parents being like, ‘Hi, can I talk to Danny?’  We didn’t have texting or anything.”  Milano did get teary when she proclaimed, “He is a beacon of light, and he will be. I’m proud.” As it turns out, this is a phrase Pintauro has embraced.  He told the women of “The View” that he has quit his lucrative job as a manager at PF Chang’s in Las Vegas to take a year off and do a “Beacon of Light” tour.  He’d like to appear at fundraisers and gay pride events nationwide.  And you know what that means.  Once again, I’m out of a job!

Our “Ask Billy” question comes from Ignacio in San Diego: “Who is that hot piece of papi a– on ‘Dancing With The Stars”?  I know he’s married, but he’s muy caliente….you must have something on him.”

One of the most interesting things about Carlos Pena Jr. is that once he married Alexa Vega, they fused their last names and became PenaVega.  The 26-year-old entertainer is 5’6″, and one of those hot little guys that you can just carry around in your front (or back) pocket.  He was in the band “Big Time Rush” and certainly has great energy, in addition to a hot, tight body you know can rock you all night long.  FYI, he’ll be playing Kenickie in FOX’s “Grease: Live”.  In addition to some racy pics, we actually have come across a video of him in the nude!  We presume it was his wife who filmed him sitting on the toilet singing “I Want It That Way” and accompanying himself on the ukulele.  It is really hot, so check it out at

When the Pope is calling former students and Milano can’t call Pintauro, it’s time to end yet another column.  I’m dashing to Florida for the MiFo LGBT Film Festival (MiFo stands for Miami/Fort Lauderdale). To keep track of my comings and goings, go to, the site that never sleeps.  If you’ve got a question, send it along to, and I promise to get back to you before we get another nude toilet video with a ukulele!  So, until next time, remember, one man’s filth is another man’s bible.